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The other day Netflix laid some real wisdom on [personal profile] wakanomori and me in the form of a conversation in 逃げるは恥だが役に立つ (The Full-Time Wife Escapist). I recommend this short series! It's funny and insightful, and its characters are unusual and likable.

The wisdom was in what the awkward, shy male lead (Hiramasa) says to the female lead (Mikuri) in a key moment. She's just said that Hiramasa doesn't need to put up with all the bother and trouble that a relationship with her entails and run off to her "office" in the bathtub.

He speaks to her through the bathroom door:
Subtitles first, actual dialogue second
If you avoid things that are troublesome and avoid them as much as possible, you'll end up hating even walking and eating. You'll hate even breathing. You may as well be dead, right? Life is troublesome.

面倒を避けて避けて、極限まで避けて続けたら、歩くのも、食べるのも、面倒になって、息をするのも面倒になって、限りなく死に近ずくんじゃないでしょうか。生きていくのって、面倒くさいです。

He then pivots to talking about how, if life is troublesome whether they live together or separately, they might as well live life together and face those troubles together--but what struck me as wisdom was his recognizing that you can keep on cutting troublesome things, irritating things, bothersome things from your life (if you're so lucky as to have the means to do so), but among the things that remain, there'll be something that rises up to take the place of the things you've gotten rid of. You could pare your life down to eating and sleeping--or walking and eating, as he says--and you'd end up finding those things a bother.

And this feels true to me! And it feels especially ominous as it gets to the point when things we actually like doing are whisked away from us in the name of removing a burden, to the point where now you have AI being promoted as being able to write that pesky paper for you, or to help you out with that scene in a story.

We need to resist having the things that make life worth living taken away from us. We don't write stories or compose music or paint paintings or knit sweaters or grow vegetables because we're the best ones to do those things--we do them because they're what make life life: this is what it means for us to be alive. No, I don't want a machine to write a story for me--that is exactly what **I** want to do. Even if I'm not the best at it. And while we're defending our right to the fun stuff, we might also want to reclaim some of the stuff that's more widely acknowledged as troublesome. I'm not saying give up a convenience you truly love, but if there's something you don't mind doing, embrace doing it.

I'm reminded of Nate Masters, a visitor to the Martin Luther King memorial when it was first unveiled in August 2011. I blogged about him back in the day, but that entry is now locked, so I'll paste in the quote here:
You live long enough, son, you're going to have some stories too, I assure you. That's the way this thing is, you understand? We have stories. If we make it through the day, you understand, and rejoice in the morning, we'll make it, you know, peace in that day. It's not hard, life is not hard. It's just a little troublesome sometimes, you know? Just make it through the day, that's all.

(Here's a link to the NPR story, if you want to hear his voice.)

Date: 2023-06-17 10:52 pm (UTC)
mallorys_camera: (Default)
From: [personal profile] mallorys_camera
Wise words!

Though for me, it's not that life gets troublesome at times that's the issue.

It's that when "troublesome" passes a certain threshold, my Serious Bitch Potential gets activated. 😀

Date: 2023-06-18 04:00 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mallorys_camera
Ha, ha, ha, ha! I did yesterday!!!!! 😀

Date: 2023-06-18 03:02 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sonia
I like this! It reminds me of conversations I've had with people about biking places in the rain. Sure, it's more pleasant to bike in the sunshine, but it's not like driving in the rain is fun either, and overall I'd rather use my life energy to ride and maintain a bike than drive and maintain a car.

Date: 2023-06-18 05:08 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kore
This is a great post and it made me feel a lot better. <3

Date: 2023-06-18 05:46 am (UTC)
sovay: (Lord Peter Wimsey: passion)
From: [personal profile] sovay
You may as well be dead, right? Life is troublesome.

I just finished reviewing a movie with this moral! It sounds like a nice show, too.

Date: 2023-06-18 07:01 pm (UTC)
sovay: (Lord Peter Wimsey: passion)
From: [personal profile] sovay
Among other things, it features a single 49-year-old female executive and a 32 year-old male salaryman from another company, circling a relationship with each other, more than one gay character, a tough single mom, a realistic description of trying to organize an open-air market, and many male characters, not a single one of whom is toxic.

Do they organize the open-air market?!

Date: 2023-06-19 03:03 am (UTC)
sovay: (Lord Peter Wimsey: passion)
From: [personal profile] sovay
Not without hiccups, but they do!

That sounds right for this show. Hiccups are troublesome.

Date: 2023-06-18 09:32 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] cmcmck
We all have stories for sure!

Date: 2023-06-18 12:02 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] amaebi
"Marigold was not that sort of baby. Marigold was difficult. Well, life was difficult, she thought."
- Louise Glück (2022). Marigold and Rose: A Fiction. New York, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 13

"Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water; After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water."
- Wu Li

Date: 2023-06-19 06:27 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] wayfaringwordhack
LOL, yes, I found it so as well.

Date: 2023-06-19 06:29 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] wayfaringwordhack
I find that first dialogue shows the mentality of a person in a spiral down into depression. First one thing becomes bothersome, then even a bit scary, and then another and another until one just can't function. Then you segued into the bit about AI, and I wondered: How much about AI is the thrill of mastery and invention and how much is because society as a whole is in the throes of a deep depression because they JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH THEMSELVES. They pursue things without meaning until they can't see meaning any more, much less it even exists.

Date: 2023-06-19 07:05 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] wayfaringwordhack
I heart this comment-entry with a thousand hearts!

Date: 2023-06-19 03:20 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sartorias
True, true, true.

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