Right? That's why I apologized to the kitchen staff and the other patrons: the place can't function if people make it miserable for patrons to eat there, and Jennifer was definitely pushing things in that direction. And indeed, a tourist location (which Letícia is) can only work if tourists are happy spending money there, and they're not likely to feel happy spending money there if they're constantly accosted...
... So yeah: I was aware that what I was doing wasn't just my own charity: It was requiring the indulgence of everyone else in the place, who may have preferred to have a drama-free 45 minutes.
But then, against that, you have the needs of a hungry kid. And there ought to be better ways for her to get a meal, but if there aren't in that moment? But solving the problem in the moment can make it harder to solve it long term... yeah, it's not easy AT ALL.
Regarding haggling, I feel like it's complicated by the fact that some people might be insulted if you don't haggle, but others might be put out if you do, because the people in the market aren't a monolith either. And people's expectations of foreigners can be different from their expectations of locals, etc. etc. etc.
I liked that in Letícia they had this public-information sign laying out the ground rules for how everyone should treat everyone. It doesn't address haggling or begging, but it's a start (you can click through to see it bigger):
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Date: 2023-04-22 01:32 pm (UTC)... So yeah: I was aware that what I was doing wasn't just my own charity: It was requiring the indulgence of everyone else in the place, who may have preferred to have a drama-free 45 minutes.
But then, against that, you have the needs of a hungry kid. And there ought to be better ways for her to get a meal, but if there aren't in that moment? But solving the problem in the moment can make it harder to solve it long term... yeah, it's not easy AT ALL.
Regarding haggling, I feel like it's complicated by the fact that some people might be insulted if you don't haggle, but others might be put out if you do, because the people in the market aren't a monolith either. And people's expectations of foreigners can be different from their expectations of locals, etc. etc. etc.
I liked that in Letícia they had this public-information sign laying out the ground rules for how everyone should treat everyone. It doesn't address haggling or begging, but it's a start (you can click through to see it bigger):